Mediation can be an excellent alternative to litigation. In Colorado divorce mediation, the parties meet with a third-party neutral, often an attorney or psychologist, who helps them negotiate an acceptable solution. Unlike an arbitrator, the mediator is not authorized to make decisions about the dispute; rather, he or she simply facilitates communication between the parties, helps them think of solutions, and suggests options for resolution. The resolution is often based on what other couples have done in similar circumstances, or what the judge may decide, should the parties take their case to court.
Courts often order divorcing couples to go to mediation. However, the parties may also decide to use mediation themselves without being ordered. Many courts provide mediators, or there are mediators in private practice. Because there is direct communication between the parties, the process is often quicker and less expensive than relying on the court or the attorneys to work out a resolution. Also, if the parties are able to negotiate their own agreement, they are often more satisfied with the results than if the court decides.
In mediation, the parties are free to decide how the process will work. They can meet together or do their negotiating from different rooms, even different cities, for example, in a conference call. The process lasts only so long as the parties believe it is useful. If either party is uncomfortable with the way the mediation is going, he or she can end the mediation.
There is a limited but important element of confidentiality in mediation. Neither party can disclose to the court what is said in mediation. This protection is there to assure the parties that they may be creative in mediation, brainstorm, or suggest possible solutions, without being concerned that what they say will be used in court.
Because the parties control mediation, it is often a better process for resolving disputes about families than going to court. Especially where there are children, it is often beneficial for the parents to resolve issues concerning their children between themselves, rather than leaving it up to a judge. Parents are usually better equipped to make decisions about their children, and mediation often makes it possible to make those decisions, even where the parents are having difficulty communicating.
Most good family lawyers support and encourage the use of mediation. In fact, you should think about mediation as a supplement to good legal advice. You can often meet with your lawyer to help you prepare for mediation and to gather the necessary documents. Finally, your lawyer can help you review the legal ramifications of any agreements you reach in mediation. That way, you can best protect yourself and your children.