Tips for Single Parents - The Divorced Parents' Guide to the Holiday Season

During the school year it can be a challenge for single parents to keep their children supervised and occupied. When summer vacation arrives and accompanying school activities are no longer available, this issue can become even more complex. For single parents who are concerned about what to do with their children while they are busy at work, we have gathered some helpful suggestions.

1. Let your children help plan daily activities. Allow your children to participate when plans are being made for school vacations. Children are more open to such arrangements when they have had the opportunity to provide their input.
   
   
2. Make sure young children can spend time with fun and interesting people. Spending time with grandparents, favorite family members, or neighbors can be a special treat for your child. Other possible alternatives for positive interactions include the parents of your children’s friends, summer school teachers and camp counselors.
   
   
3. Locate organizations that have programs for children. Community parks, recreation centers, camps, religious organizations, YMCA camps, health club day camps, etc. are groups accustomed to planning activities for children. Organizations that provide youth programs can help make the school break go more smoothly for you and your child.
   
   
4. If children will be spending part of the time home alone:
   • Discuss what to do in case of emergencies.
   • Leave a number where you can be reached.
   • Leave kids a list of choices for snacks or for lunch.
   • Make a list of possible activities other than TV or the computer.
   • Assign specific chores or activities for helping out around the house.
     
5. Check out books, videos, and DVDs from your local library.
   
   
6. Help your children set up babysitting jobs, car washes, lemonade stands, or even a lawn care or dog walking service for your neighborhood.
   
   
7. Set aside time to spend with each of your children individually.
   
   
8. Give your child something special to look forward to. Having a special event to look forward to during a school holiday, can help a child get through the time when you have to take care of other responsibilities.
   
   
9. If the school break arrangements are not to your child’s liking and cannot be changed, be open to hearing your child's feelings. Children who feel that the adults who love them hear, understand and accept their feelings can help the difficult times go more smoothly.
   
   
10. Take care of yourself so you have the energy you need for your children. Take some time for yourself to ensure you have the energy to enjoy this extra time with your children.

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